Jennifer and her husband at their son’s wedding
As Thanksgiving approaches this week, there is so much to be thankful for. For three of us at Behnke’s it’s been all about weddings. Being the mothers of the grooms has been a very unique experience for us. First, of course, we each had to find the perfect dress. Because, well, we wanted to make our sons proud. Then came the planning for the big day as each weekend this month we watched our boys marry their sweethearts. Becky T. from customer service went first with a beautiful wedding in Frederick County. And then Jennifer P. our office manager and bonsai expert watched her son say his vows the second weekend. Then it was my turn…last Sunday I watched my son Steven marry Amy, the girl of his dreams, at Elkridge Furnace Inn.
Being the mom of a son and watching him give his love to his wife is a strange feeling. Where did my little boy go? When did he become this 36 year old man? While watching the ceremony and listening to Amy’s grandfather officiate, I remembered thinking of the old saying, “A son is a son till he takes a wife”… and I thought maybe I should be sad or emotional about this? But all I could feel is happy that he found his Amy. If I had to pick out my son’s wife it would have been Amy. Such a sweet girl, so giving and so loving. I made a promise to myself that I won’t be the mother-in-law that jokes are made of. I am very lucky since my own mother- in-law showed me how to do it correctly!
my solo dance with my son
The wedding was such a joy. And so much fun. My son had told us that instead of a first dance they would be singing to each other…I could not wait! Now some of you might know that my son has been involved in theater one way or the other his whole life and while he is now an assistant principal at a high school, he loves a good production. His bride also sings and dances so we were treated to a show…cue the lights, send in the fog and start the music. The two of them sang “What You Mean to Me” from Finding Neverland. And while singing, they danced! Amazing! Loved it!! All was good! Then the father of the bride came out and tap danced with his daughter! Okay, now I was getting a little concerned. Was there going to be a dance with my son? Was I expected to actually get up there and do something amazing? We never practiced anything! The DJ called me to the dance floor and my son held out his hand as the one song that gets to me every time started up: Carole King’s, “This Child of Mine.” Good news is, I held it together…bad news is, he totally startled me when he spun me around the dance floor. Where in the world did he learn to dance like that? Of course I stumbled but he held me up!
Amy, Steven and my mom
The good times went on the rest of the afternoon. Excellent food, watching my grandchildren dance the whole time, getting to know Amy’s family, hearing my daughters speech to the couple, (that made me cry) seeing my mom smiling as she watched the festivities, our family, and enjoying the Winter wonderland that Amy and Steven created for their wedding.
What are we thankful for? Sons that pick amazing wives. Good friends that help you get through the details of weddings, and just to say, the decorations for the tables and venue that came from Behnke’s were the best! Beautiful white poinsettias, fresh wreaths for centerpieces with pine cones and lights! All created with input from pretty much everyone at the garden center. If your son is getting married and you need advice as THE MOM OF THE GROOM, stop by and chat with any of us! We will share all of our words of wisdom on how to let your baby boy go. Oh wait! He has to come back home, we have all their presents at our house!
by Stephanie Fleming, Behnke’s Vice President